“I am not enough.”
Has anyone ever had this dark, dangerous and poisonous thought run through their mind?
Those four little words have the power to strip us down and make us feel horrible, small and worthless, and the sad truth is that so many of us feel this way when it’s absolutely not true.
I know there are many things that can make us feel like we’re not enough. When you go through a bad breakup, when something really negative happens in your life, when people are mean or don’t understand you, or simply when it feels like you are always drawing the short end of the stick. This evil little thought senses our fragility in those moments and whispers in our ear that the reason all these bad things are happening, why we maybe aren’t popular, why you didn’t get that promotion, for instance, is because you, simply, are not enough.
Well, I’m here to tell you that that is so far away from the truth it might as well be on another planet. In another galaxy in fact. I’m here to tell you that the only thing that evil thought deserves is a swift kick so that it flies out your head and back into the dark and slimy hole it crawled out of. You are enough. You have always been enough, and you will always be enough.
I’ve been there. I’ve had those thoughts, and I’m going to be honest … they suck. They make everything dull and miserable, and it makes you constantly question yourself and your self-worth, and it often takes something pretty significant to realise that you are enough. But that evil thought is persistent, and I believe that we all sometimes need a little support to honestly believe that, so today I’m going through a few ways that you can practice positive thinking and make sure that evil thought stays as far away from you as possible.
Get rid of toxic things in your life.
As sad as it is, we all have toxic things in our life that encourage that evil thought to stay close. Toxic people and things do nothing but keep you chained in endless loops of self-doubt, and that’s precisely what they want, but you have the choice to get rid of those toxins too. It may not be easy, but honestly think through the things and people in your life and ask if they are truly making you happy, or if they leave you with a sour taste in your mouth and a bottomless pit in your stomach.
The honest truth is that there are probably plenty of toxic people in our lives who definitely don’t deserve you. If they are adding negativity to your life, you need to move on without them. Rid yourself of all those toxic things, and you’ll find that without those sources of negativity, that evil thought is a lot quieter and doesn’t come out quite as often.
Practice having a positive mindset
The next key element is to build up your mental strength. You need to build a positive mindset. This one is tough because what people say can hurt, and I know just how hard it can be to flush out negative thoughts that persist and buzz around your head like immortal flies. But practice thinking positively as much as you can. Every time you have a negative thought, have a positive memory or affirmation ready to go and soon, positive thinking will get easier until you can swat away those flies and combat most (if not all) of those horrible insecure feelings about not being good enough.
Question your thoughts
It’s important to remember that thoughts are just thoughts, but one of the malicious tricks of that evil thought is it sometimes makes it hard to distinguish what is real, and what is just insecurities going wild in our imagination, with nothing to reign them in. This one ties in a lot with positive thinking – your brain is so powerful, and it can convince you that you’re not good enough, but at the same time, you can find ways to take control of those thoughts. Question those thoughts when you have them – why do you really think that? Is there any truth in them? Why do you believe them? How can you let them go?
It’s through questioning your thoughts that you can break them down and either get rid of them because you realise they aren’t true, or you can accept them as just thoughts and know that they can’t affect you because unlike what that evil thought keeps trying to promote – YOU ARE ENOUGH!
Be unashamed to be you.
This is a pretty big one for me, and it’s got a long, somewhat sombre story attached to it that I won’t go into today because I don’t want to depress everyone. Sometimes though, differences can often make us feel left out, giving the space for that evil thought to grow. I’ve often found this happen within peer groups or friendship circles, and when you for whatever reason don’t want to do something everyone else is doing or think differently, and they go ahead and leave you out, it provides the perfect nesting opportunity for that evil thought.
I am here to tell you right now that there is nothing wrong with being unashamedly you! I know that it’s hard, and let’s face it no one wants to be left out of things, but don’t sacrifice who you are and things you believe in for people like that because they don’t deserve you and they won’t make that evil thought go away. I was so worried when coming to university that I wouldn’t make friends because I’m not a drinker, and I would be alone just like in high school, but I actually found that by sticking to who I am, I found a whole new friendship group who accept that part of me without hesitation. So take it from me – be unashamed to be you because the right people will always accept you and never allow that evil thought to take hold.
Practice self-love and self-care
Finally, the best way to make sure that evil little thought stays away is by practising self-love and self-care because just like having a positive attitude, it is something you can practice and get better at. And, the more you do it, the stronger you’ll get, and the less likely that evil thought will try to hurt you. Prioritise yourself and your mental health, do things that you enjoy and do things that make you feel alive.
By doing all of that, you prove to yourself that you are enough because you are doing things that make you feel happy and are surrounding yourself with people that make you happy. When you combine all of these things together, it is essentially like putting security bars on all the little entrances into your head where that evil little thought might get in. Of course, there is still the chance it could get in – it is stubborn after all. But when you do all of these things, you also give yourself the defence mechanisms to deal with it when it comes and not let it shake you down and doubt yourself.
I’m here to tell you once again that you are enough!! It hurts me so much when I think of all the people who are weighed down by this evil thought, and I wish more than anything that I could banish it forever. Sadly, I can’t do that, but I at least hope that this blog post will help you get rid of that evil thought and I also hope this post reassures you that you don’t need to apologise for who you are. We have these negative thoughts sometimes, and that’s okay – but it’s important not to let them chain us up and stop us from living life.
One last time … YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!
Lots of Love
Blondey on a Mission xxx