Hellooooo lovely hoomans!
I hope you’re all having a sparkly week, and a relaxing weekend. I am being my very boring, geeky self and have romantic plans with my laptop and a few gallons of tea. And not even to do fun things like bingewatch movies or write my novel.
It’s officially Easter break from uni but that by no means equals a time for rest. As I already mentioned, I have six massive essays to work on and I’m slowly making progress …
Anywho, that was not the point of this blog post! I really wanted to increase my ratio of general lifestyle posts, and more uni-related posts so I thought I’d kick things off with a topic that comes up a lot when I work with prospective students (for my job at the uni – not just randomly!) – clubbing!
When most people arrive at uni, they’re old enough (and of the legal age) to drink, which also means old enough to get into clubs. Clubbing can often be a really popular choice for a night out, or way to escape uni work, make friends and have fun.
But what if you don’t like clubbing? What then?! Do you skip the night out and risk social exclusion? Do you go and swallow your nerves and unhappiness, and do the awkward boogie shuffle in the corner wishing you were at home?! If these thoughts sound familiar, don’t worry I think loads of people stress about it because guess what? CLUBBING IS NOT FOR EVERYONE!
I have never liked clubbing. For one, clubs as an environment are just not my scene, and the crazy, chaotic crowd triggers my anxiety and it’s just not a fun time for me. I used to think that people wouldn’t like me for having that opinion (I went on the occasional night out with friends but mostly preferred the stay home in my pjs option) but when I told my friends it wasn’t for me, they all understood and are always supportive of my choice if I opt to stay home.
It can be really scary admitting you don’t enjoy doing something everyone else really likes, but as cheesy as it sounds, good friends won’t care and they’ll love you for it, and be respectful of your choice. Also, people can be surprisingly accepting if you’re honest – most people I’ve met, once I explain why I don’t like clubbing, have been 100% accepting and supportive.
Plus, and this is the fun part, there are also so many other fun things you can plan instead of clubbing!! For instance, I haven’t gone clubbing once this year, but I’ve been to a friends cocktail-making party and ‘Dress as your Love Life’ Valentine’s party; I’ve hosted a junkfood potluck and South African themed dinner; had cafe trips, takeaway and movie nights and they have been so much more fun than clubbing. And, this is just the cherry on the cake… a few of my friends commented that they even preferred those special nights in because it’s more interesting, easier to socialise, you can get home at a reasonable hour and is just so much more memorable than another night in a random club.
So, take it from someone who has struggled with making friends for years and can’t stand clubs – you don’t have to go clubbing to make friends!! I have such a fun group of friends and we have such fun planning themed nights or activities together because at the end of the day, those are the experiences you’re going to remember when you look back on your uni years.
I hope you enjoyed this blog post, and it didn’t feel too weird or like a mom giving awkward advice to someone! If you ever feel worried about this though, or uni in general – reach out! I’m happy to chat with you via email/social media, or if there’s a topic you’d like me to chat about let me know.
See you next week everyone, but until then, stay sparkly everyone!
Lots of love
Blondey on a Mission xxx