Hellooooo lovely hoomans!
I hope you’re all having a sparkly week, and a relaxing weekend. I am being my very boring, geeky self and have romantic plans with my laptop and a few gallons of tea. And not even to do fun things like bingewatch movies or write my novel.
Oh no!
It’s officially Easter break from uni but that by no means equals a time for rest. As I already mentioned, I have six massive essays to work on and I’m slowly making progress …
Anywho, that was not the point of this blog post! I really wanted to increase my ratio of general lifestyle posts, and more uni-related posts so I thought I’d kick things off with a topic that comes up a lot when I work with prospective students (for my job at the uni – not just randomly!) – clubbing!
When most people arrive at uni, they’re old enough (and of the legal age) to drink, which also means old enough to get into clubs. Clubbing can often be a really popular choice for a night out, or way to escape uni work, make friends and have fun.
But what if you don’t like clubbing? What then?! Do you skip the night out and risk social exclusion? Do you go and swallow your nerves and unhappiness, and do the awkward boogie shuffle in the corner wishing you were at home?! If these thoughts sound familiar, don’t worry I think loads of people stress about it because guess what? CLUBBING IS NOT FOR EVERYONE!
I have never liked clubbing. For one, clubs as an environment are just not my scene, and the crazy, chaotic crowd triggers my anxiety and it’s just not a fun time for me. I used to think that people wouldn’t like me for having that opinion (I went on the occasional night out with friends but mostly preferred the stay home in my pjs option) but when I told my friends it wasn’t for me, they all understood and are always supportive of my choice if I opt to stay home.
It can be really scary admitting you don’t enjoy doing something everyone else really likes, but as cheesy as it sounds, good friends won’t care and they’ll love you for it, and be respectful of your choice. Also, people can be surprisingly accepting if you’re honest – most people I’ve met, once I explain why I don’t like clubbing, have been 100% accepting and supportive.
Plus, and this is the fun part, there are also so many other fun things you can plan instead of clubbing!! For instance, I haven’t gone clubbing once this year, but I’ve been to a friends cocktail-making party and ‘Dress as your Love Life’ Valentine’s party; I’ve hosted a junkfood potluck and South African themed dinner; had cafe trips, takeaway and movie nights and they have been so much more fun than clubbing. And, this is just the cherry on the cake… a few of my friends commented that they even preferred those special nights in because it’s more interesting, easier to socialise, you can get home at a reasonable hour and is just so much more memorable than another night in a random club.
So, take it from someone who has struggled with making friends for years and can’t stand clubs – you don’t have to go clubbing to make friends!! I have such a fun group of friends and we have such fun planning themed nights or activities together because at the end of the day, those are the experiences you’re going to remember when you look back on your uni years.
I hope you enjoyed this blog post, and it didn’t feel too weird or like a mom giving awkward advice to someone! If you ever feel worried about this though, or uni in general – reach out! I’m happy to chat with you via email/social media, or if there’s a topic you’d like me to chat about let me know.
See you next week everyone, but until then, stay sparkly everyone!
Lots of love
Blondey on a Mission xxx
Tall Blonde Tales 
This is something I’d get reassured about (even tho I didn’t go to uni) as I don’t like going out to clubs but I’d never actually heard other people say they felt the same if you know what I mean? The part that made me laugh was when you said mum advice because it’s my mum that would tell me it’s not for everyone but now I’ve actually heard it from someone (you!) and it’s hit home a bit more! 🤣 Thanks for talking about something that just doesn’t get said enough if at all, it was nice to hear it and makes me feel okay in how I am as a person. You proved the point that it’s not missing out if it’s not for you and that other stuff is just as/if not more enjoyable. Loved your post! ✨💛
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Ahh I’m so glad!! Exactly I think there’s a bit of a taboo around admitting you don’t like clubbing. Oh my word haha yes I’ve gotten that a lot that some of my comments sound like a parent so now I just own it 😂😂 Thank you so much for reading I hope other people feel the same ❤️✨ but absolutely so long as you’re doing things you enjoy that’s all that matters!
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I have never really liked clubbing either. I did find it hard being in the UK and not liking clubbing though. Rejection definitely happned, but ultimately, I did find friends who also didn’t like clubbing either
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It can be a bit difficult here as it seems to really be the dominant thing but I’m glad you found your friends who also don’t enjoy it xx
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Clubbing is definitely not for me…
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That’s okay!! It’s not exactly a fun thing in my mind
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Was never a party person in college- during Easter Break, spent time with my family
My time at university- most of my social life was spent with my club, The Gathering (the student-led worship service), and student activity events
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It’s not for everyone – but that sounds fun!
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Well, if I say some of the student activity events:
1. Pinterest Night
2. Candy and Critters
3. Skate Night
4. The Big E- basically going to a movie late at night
5. Two Musical Tours
6. Hikes
7. Disney World during Spring Break
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I’ve never been clubbing. I have anxiety as well and I don’t like crowds and noise. Since I’ve never been clubbing, I can’t say for sure if I would like it but I probably wouldn’t. I don’t like stadiums full of loud, drunk people so I’m guessing it’s like that plus loud music. No thank you. I went to one party in university where they were drinking and I was very drunk… woke up with a horrible migraine the next day. To me that wasn’t fun….
Who says we need to spend every weekend hanging out with friends? In a perfect world, maybe. When I was in university I spent every weekend studying for exams and working on school-related stuff. A day off meant going to the coffee shop, the mall, or going to the arboretum with a friend. Maybe going to the park. Something quaint and small. I have 2 undergrad degrees and spent a great deal of time as a uni student.
Thank you for posting this unpopular opinion. I hope more girls can realize that they don’t need to like what everyone else likes for the sake of fitting in or making memories 🙂
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Hey sorry for the late reply! Ahh I get you then but really you don’t miss much and I agree – it’s not that fun.
Exactly that’s a very good point!! That sounds like a lovely day off I also love coffee shop visits. Oh wow congrats I’m just hoping to get through this one.
Thank you so much for reading and I hope so too😊✨
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H Blondye,
Your tips and advice, I am sure have helped a lot of young folk realise that they don’t need to be a “sheep” and follow the crowds just to fit in, if they keep looking they will find their spot and fit in 100% at the same time they wont suffer from anxiety just to feel part of the “gang”. Keep up with these tips. xxx
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Thanks so much Wendy I hope so too xx
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