I feel like there’s always a weird thing where it comes to blogging – this sort of expectation that the posts you share should either be positive and sparky, or if they’re negative, then they need to have some underlying positive message or life lesson that came as a result of the not so happy experience.
I like to think of myself as a ‘glass-half-full’ sort of person, and I try to convey that sort of tone in my blogs. I like my blog posts to make my readers happy, and give them something positive, or a reason to smile in their day. Even if I’m talking about something that’s quite negative or heavy, I like to try and end things on an insightful or empowering note.
However, you can’t always be positive, and what I’m realising is maybe there’s something just as powerful in being brave enough to share things that you can’t put a positive spin on? Two of my biggest inspirations in the blogging world are Olivia Lucie Blake, and Moksha from Happy Panda and honestly I aspire to one day be bloggers even half as incredible as them. One thing I’ve been inspired to do from following their blogs, is that it’s okay to share the negatives just as they are, and that’s nothing to be ashamed of. So today I thought I’d give that a whirl, because while blogging is great fun and I can’t say I don’t love it, I don’t love it all the time and I’ve been really struggling with a few things recently. Let me share with you some of my blogging insecurities and stresses/non-positives.
- Am I actually creating engaging content?? This is probably a thought I have almost all the time. I write two blogs a week and haven’t really taken any time off since I started, which is now almost three years. Honestly I am constantly stressed and insecure about the fact that I’m just not creating content anyone wants to read… (which kind of links to some of my other insecurities too)
- Likes and comments = quality. Similar to Instagram (which is probably why I don’t really use social media much anymore), I always end up feeling like the number of likes and comments I get on a post automatically corresponds to the quality of the blog. The only problem is this leads to a delightful spiral of self-doubt and upset because I’ll pour my soul into writing blogs that only get 10 likes and I can’t help thinking to myself ‘HOW THE HELL have I only managed to get 10 likes when I have over a 1000 followers??’
- I can’t network. I’m a complete failure. I always preach in blogging advice posts about the importance of networking, and while I stand by that, it breaks my heart when I just don’t have the time to because not only do I feel like I’m hurting my blog, but also all my blogging relationships I’ve tried to build. The sad thing is I just don’t know where to fit it in between everything else in my life…
- Reading other posts and then feeling completely useless and insecure. Another delightful insecurity is reading other people’s posts and wondering where on earth you’re going wrong because you think your posts should definitely getting this sort of engagement. Or, on the flip side, you read other blogs and feel completely useless and wonder why you haven’t just given up already and chucked your laptop out the window.
- The hours and hours of work are totally not worth it. At the end of the day, a lot of those points all kind of culminate to this – is it even worth it when you spend so many hours yet it seems like you haven’t really progressed and should you even bother continuing. At times like these, I’m not sure it is but I guess you just have to push through to when it does feel worth it.
- Would everything be better if I used social media more?? But I barely have time as it is … So lots of people know that I’m really awful with social media, and that poses a really complex issue for a blogger. Does social media really drive up traffic that much? Should I be investing additional hours into Pinterest and Instagram promotion, do you think that will help?? And if so, where on earth am I meant to find the time for that because ahhhhh it already feels like there is never enough time!
So there we have it … a whole ton of blogging insecurities and issues I feel on a regular basis, but particularly at the moment. Please tell me I’m not the only one who feels at least one of these things? Let’s chat in the comments section!
But also, I just want to say a huge thank you to everyone who does support my blog and reads, likes and comments on my posts. It really does make me feel so much better and like it is all worth it so thank you for keeping me going.
Lots of Love
Blondey on a Mission xxx